While dating your best friend or making a relationship out of a friends with benefits situation always works out in the movies, in real life, it's a different story. In theory, it seems like the best idea ever but, in theory, lots of disasters seem like the best idea ever. Even if dating your best friend does work out in real life, it's still not without its complications. So before you go down that road, here are seven things to consider — seven things that all point in the direction that dating your best friend is a bad idea. As much as we may not want to admit to it, sex can change everything.
Once you've seen someone in such an intimate situation, like sex, you never see them quite the same way again. It's because of this that dating your best friend is such a risk. While dating and allowing yourself to be vulnerable with someone else is always a risk, when it's your best friend you have more to lose, far more is at a stake than just the romantic relationship. You're basically putting all your bets on the table when you date your best friend and when you do that, it's hard to walk away with everything you started out with when you walked into the room in the first place; it's one hell of a gamble.
That's also why friends with benefits rarely go back to being just friends.
7 Reasons You Shouldn't Date Your Best Friend
If you've ever broken up with a friend , you know it's just as painful — if not more so — than breaking up with a partner. Now think about losing your partner and you best friend forever because you the two of you decided to give a relationship a try.
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Isn't the thought alone painful enough? It's definitely not a loss many people would want to risk experiencing, because it's double the pain. While in the moment you might be able to convince yourselves that you're making the right decision and it's going to work out, it's important to weigh the pros and cons, and weigh them realistically. Even if you are a natural risk taker, is this a risk worth taking? Are you willing to, literally, lose it all? No matter what your physical chemistry might be saying , it's important to step outside the scenario and see it clearly.
Once you sleep with your best friend, you're heading down a road with no U-turn. It's far easier to spot red flags early on in a relationship with someone who isn't your best friend. With our best friends, we tend to make allowances for them and let them get away with things that, no way in hell, we'd let others get away with when it comes to dating us.
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I’m in Love with My Best Friend… What Next?
My husband and I are in the middle of home renovations. So, our schedule and budget are tight. One of the great advantages of not living in a monarchy is the absence of command performances. And rolling with unforeseen family requests is an important quality in a good partner. Some friends from work invited me to dinner and kept aggressively refilling my wine glass. Then they shared what I assumed were my private remarks with higher-ups at work.
Should I force a hard conversation? I hate it when people tie me down and force me to drink!
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Start by acknowledging your own responsibility. You drank.
Drunk words are sober thoughts. Hugs are more than hugs to you Your entire family knows him or her. When something good happens, you want to tell this person first. When something bad happens, you want to tell the person first.
His or her shoulder is yours on which to cry. You look at him or her for a little too long. This person really, really, really matters to you. His or her presence in your life means the world to you and you wouldn't have it any other way. You actually picture yourself with this person. It's always fun to imagine what could possibly happen, right?
In the words of Drake, "A chance is like a picture; it'd be nice if you just take it.